Plowing Through the Problems of Elder Care

As baby boomers watch the years fly by, one of theircontact private duty agencies and request assistance
biggest concerns is sorting through the many problemsin finding funds that are available.
of caring for their elderly parents. When is it no longerPrivate duty agencies can provide any kind of
safe for our elderly parent to stay home alone? Hownon-medical care needed to assist the client in staying
can we maintain our jobs, our home, our children, andat home. They will provide personal care assistance,
care for our parents all at the same time? Whatmedication reminders, cleaning, cooking, laundry, running
resources are available to help? How do we approacherrands, and transportation to appointments, and a
the subject with them? How can we help them keepvariety of other services. They are usually available
their independence and dignity? How do we deal withtwenty four hours a day, including holidays and week
the stress of it all?ends, and do not require any doctor's orders to initiate
As our parents age, we need to stay diligent andthe care.
aware of changes in their mental orientation and abilityHome health care requires a doctor's order for
to care for themselves. Are they just a little forgetfulservices to begin, and the patient must be certified to
at times, or is it something more worrisome than that?be on "home bound status". This means that they can
If they are able to take their medications without beingonly leave home to visit the doctor, go to church, or to
reminded, bathe alone, dress without assistance,the beauty or barber shop. A nurse will visit on a
prepare meals every day, and they are notregular basis, and a home health aide will assist with
experiencing frequent falls or sudden illnesses, they arepersonal care. Some home health agencies also
probably safe to be at home alone. There areprovide physical therapy, social services, speech
monitoring systems and personal emergency alerttherapy, and occupational therapy as well. Most home
systems that can provide added security by makinghealth care agencies are not available in the evening
help available to them in the event of an accident orhours, on week ends, or on holidays. The majority of
sudden illness.home health agencies accept insurance and Medicare
However, if you notice that your parent's health ispayments.
declining, that they have increased weakness orHospice care also requires a doctor's order, and the
weight loss, if they have had frequent falls, if they arepatient must have a life-limiting disease with
not taking their medications, not eating properly, and notexpectations of six months or less to live. Patients can
able to do their personal care without help, it may bebe re-certified for hospice every sixty days, and may
time to look into other options. Sometimes thelive much longer than six months and still be in hospice
increased care is all they need to regain their strengthcare. Hospice care also provides nursing and home
and be able to continue living at home, avoidinghealth aide services, along with extrasupport to the
placement in a nursing facility or some other major lifefamily and patient during this difficult time. Comfort
change.measures are a priority in the plan of care, and they
Finding the help you need is another obstacle. Knowinghave a variety of services such as social services,
who to go to for help may seem to be anpastoral care, and volunteer services as well. Medicare
overwhelming task, but there are many resourcesand insurance usually are accepted. There will always
available to seek information and counsel. Private dutybe a hospice nurse on call twenty four hours a day to
organizations, home health agencies, and hospices areassist with any emergencies or special problems during
all viable places to start if you want to help your parenttimes when the office is closed.
stay at home.Sometimes the best plan is a combination of home
The Indiana Association for Home Care and Hospicehealth or hospice along with private duty care. Many
(IAHHC) has a listing of all local agencies, both forseniors are resistant to accepting any kind of help at
private pay and agencies that accept Medicare and/orfirst, and will require continual reassurance effort to
insurance payor sources. You can find them on theirhelp them maintain as much independence as possible.
web site:When addressing these issues, never "speak down" to
When investigating which private agency to use, makeyour loved one. Remember, even though roles are
sure they are licensed appropriately and that they dochanging, they still deserve to be honored and
criminal background checks on all their employees.respected. Sometimes calling a care giver "the maid"
Their staff should be bonded and insured, and youor "the butler" rather than a "caregiver" or "home health
should not have any of the burden for carryingaide" will help them accept the situation with a little less
worker's compensation, tax liabilities, or social security.anxiety. It's all in the attitude that it's presented to them
A new law beginning in January of 2006 requires all- help them feel a sense of control in the situation
private duty, non-medical services to be licensedwhenever possible. Try to help them understand that
through the state of Indiana. Make sure the agencythese changes are happening in their home because
you choose has gone through this licensing process,you love them and want them to be able to stay at
and you will be safer in trusting that they have taken allhome as long as possible and not have to live in a
the appropriate steps in ensuring good care for yourfacility to get the help they need.
loved one.Don't forget to schedule time for yourself during this
There are many financial resources available to helpintensely demanding season of your life. By
pay for private duty care, such as reverse homesuccumbing to false guilt or unreasonable demands,
mortgages. The Veterans Administration can give youyou may be setting yourself up for a disaster later.
valuable information on benefits for veterans whoTake time to enjoy your immediate family, your
need care at home and have served at least one dayhobbies, and leisure time as well. Join in with other
in the service during war time. These benefits are alsocaregiver groups for extra support - you can find
available for spouses of veterans. Look on the webthem at churches or on the web. You'll be
for more information regarding financial concerns;safeguarding your own ability to handle this long term
there's plenty of information available. You can alsorole as a caregiver with a healthy mind, body, and spirit.